simplest definition of coaching

The simplest definition of coaching

My typical client is a human with a goal. Where does the goal rest? It rests in the human’s mind. Not at the office, not in the boardroom, not in his smartphone, not in his colleagues’ voices. A goal does not exist until it occupies a human’s mind. And than, problems begin. This is the simplest definition of coaching.

Why does this situation need coaching?

Because of one of the following possibilities:

  1. MISUSE OF OWN MIND: the human might consider his a goal of other(s);
  2. COMPASS: the human is unclear about the essence of the goal: is it a new way of being? a new way of doing? something to have? something relational? a combination of all these?
  3. SYSTEMIC VIEW: human’s goal might be linked to his other goals or other humans’ goals;
  4. SUBJECT-OBJECT: the human is subject of the goal instead of objectifying it; being subject gives him drive and passion, objectifying it gives the human clarity.
  5. LEVEL OF UNDERSTANDING: the human is too small for the goal; his consciousness needs to “grow up”;
  6. VALUES: the human doesn’t know himself enough;
  7. LACK OF CLARITY: the human didn’t define the goal very well;
  8. CREATIVITY: the human has limited/ bad or no solutions to attain the goal.

My coaching ways

So, sometimes I have to coach the human, sometimes the goal and sometimes both.

Sometimes I have to use:

A. a transpersonal approach (co-discovering/ co-uncovering human’s values and beliefs and his life’s underlying purpose) – #5, #6

B. a systemic approach (how the human/ the goal/ both relates to the VUCA world around) – #1, #3

C. an NLP approach (longterm changes of mindsets – beliefs, heartsets – moods, states and bodysets – language, posture, embodiment, to attain the goal) – #2, #7, #8, #4

D. a cross-training or martial arts approach (micro-practices to perpetuate new habits, to train new skills, to instill new attitudes) – #2

E. an integral approach (defining the existing/ desired level of consciousness of the human or/ and of the goal, working with all the types of inner intelligence of the human, checking on all the perspectives – inner universe, actions and behaviors, relationships, the larger society, environment and processes) – #2, #4

Metaphor

I am a sherpa accompanying an Everest climber during an expedition. He might need me when:

  • he sets an unclear destination;
  • he loses focus from his intention;
  • he starts the climb and needs to be in a certain mental/ emotional, physical, relational state;
  • he collaborates with other climbers and/ or sherpas;
  • he is preoccupied with other aspects in his life;
  • he gets lost in case of obstacles and can not detach from the goal in order to have a clearer view;
  • he has a goal (summit) bigger (higher) than his possibilities;
  • he does not know his possibilities;
  • he has limited/ none/ obsolete ways to reach to the summit.

The difference is that I coach before, during and after attaining the goal.